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If you're looking for information on women's hormone health, how to support your menstrual cycle, and what you need to know for long term wellness--look no further. I'm Hormonal host, Bridget Walton, provides you with the information you need to get your hormones in balance so you can feel your best.
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Mindset for Reaching Goals & Prioritizing Yourself with Randi Halaway | Ep. 51
Join me for a conversation with Randi Halaway about mindset, transformation, prioritizing yourself, and so much more. Being in the right frame of mind to make change--especially when it comes to your health--is essential before embarking on any journey.
Together, we challenge societal norms that equate self-sacrifice with goodness, probing the genuine nature of giving and the essential practice of self-care — because you can't pour from an empty cup. Randy shares insights into overcoming limiting beliefs and mastering manifestation to align your inner and outer worlds; shifting from victim to victor; and why caring for yourself is key to having the life and health that you want.
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Welcome to I'm Hormonal, your source of information about women's hormone health and how to support your body. Naturally, I'm your host, bridget Walton, and I'm a certified functional hormone specialist and menstrual cycle coach. I am on a mission to hold these hormone conversations with as many menstruators as possible, because you deserve easier access to accurate information about what's up with your unruly menstrual cycle and with your fertility mysteries. Don't you think it's time that we figure this out once and for all? Hey friend, welcome to this week's episode of I'm Hormonal. I'm your host, bridget Walton, and I'm really excited to bring you an interview for today's episode.
Speaker 1:I had a conversation with my friend, rendy Holloway she is a self-love and business coach here in the San Diego area and we talked all through things like mindset and really prioritizing yourself, really standing in your power. This is a little bit of a deviation from what I'm normally talking about here on I'm Hormonal, but I think this is really important because even if you know all the things about hormones, about how your cycle works, about what food is supportive of which phase, you know the nuts and bolts of things. Even if you know that stuff but you don't know how or you're not ready to implement it in your life, then it doesn't really matter if you know it does it. In other words, really prioritizing yourself, which can be hard for so many of us, maybe for you listening, certainly for myself. At times. We all have different barriers that prevent us from accomplishing a goal from one time to another time, but this conversation, I think, will be a really good listen for you, because it's just full of good reminders about the fact that you are so important. What is important to you also matters. You can make the time for the things that are important for you and ultimately, standing in your power and having this intention about where you want to go whether that's with your hormone, health or with anything else you have going in life that's really what's going to set you up for success and push you on this track to getting where you want to be. So I hope you're really excited for that.
Speaker 1:Really quick, though, before we get into that good stuff, I just want to say welcome back. If you've listened to the episode, or rather if you've listened to the podcast before, then welcome back. I see you guys listening from all around the world, which is crazy to me. Just know that I'm so grateful for you listening. If you are new here today, then welcome, and I'm really glad you found me. Like I mentioned, today's content, today's topic is a little bit different than normal, so check out some of the earlier episodes for things that are more practical, actionable when it comes to interpreting your own body's symptoms and signals and what they're telling you. But without further ado, gang, let's get into it. Enjoy this conversation with myself and Randy Holloway. Let's start off by talking about mindset and what is really important when you're getting ready to make changes, especially when it comes to health. But what do you work on people with so they can get in the right frame of mind to be ready to make changes?
Speaker 2:Well, I have found that usually what happens with people is they have to come to their own place in life where they're ready for the change. I found that it typically happens with people that something big happens in their life. You know the loss or a big event that they're like okay, this is my wake-up call. It's time to finally start making myself a priority. Looking at some of these things I may have been running from, or sometimes they're just kind of tired of the same results, or they're inspired by somebody else who seems to be flying in their life and they just decide that you know what? It's time to start making changes. So I would say the first thing is that inner choice. What I call is like an inner discernment that, for me, I have built over time. It took me time, right, there was like layers and levels to this, whereas, like now, it's like unbreakable, like it's so discerned, so grounded, like there's no way I would ever like stop my practice or this work because I'm like so rooted in it. But it took me time to get there, so that'd be the first piece.
Speaker 2:One of the things that I think blocks people from getting to that place really starts with the mind and the ego and the stories that it tells us, right. So there's a lot of stories that come up around like, well, I'm not good enough. Like why would I make myself a priority? Why would I sit down and take this special time for me, my health, whatever this is because I'm not worthy of that. I need to be kind of doing things more outwardly. And these are all ego-based stories that ultimately what they do is they keep us looping in typically more chaotic patterns where what I call we go around and around on like a hamster wheel, going basically to nowheresville. Right, we're just kind of going around and around. This is where we start to get frustrated because we're hitting the same walls, but typically there's some sort of story around not being good enough or what if I do this thing and it doesn't work out?
Speaker 2:And then, separately, I find, you know, in order to really start doing this work slowing down, breathing, meditating, journaling, starting to learn more about your body, your health, your hormones, things like that, your emotions you have to be willing to sit in some uncomfort. And this seems to be the place where, as humans, you know, we've given a lot of meaning to uncomfort. We've given a lot of meaning to what it means to feel you know, I'm air quoting uncomfortable or bad feelings, and I found this is probably one of the biggest blocks for people as to why they sort of like put the brakes on because it's like. No, I think I'm just going to keep doing more of my strategy over here where it keeps me chaotic. I keep hustling.
Speaker 2:I have all these other things to do. You don't understand. I've got a list. I've got other people I need to take care of, and what that ultimately does is it distracts us from just like actually sitting, being feeling and looking at something that's uncomfortable. What's fascinating about what I'm speaking about is that when we actually take the time to do that and this is why, going back to my original point typically it can take something bigger to happen to force you to do it, but when you do, when you start and it's interesting I immediately have chills. When you start to look at it, sit with it, be with it, feel it. What happens on the other side is really, really magical and powerful, because it actually releases.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:This is when you kind of fall into this space where there's more of a what I like to call a remembrance of true self, the part of you that's really connected to your heart, your intuition, your power, the part of you that knows that you're already safe today, you're already loved today, you're already worthy today. There's nothing else you need to do outwardly to achieve this. It already exists within, and I believe that is true freedom.
Speaker 1:I love. Well, I love a lot of what you said, but a couple of things that really stuck out to me that you mentioned quickly about the wheel, like that hamster wheel to know where's Phil, which I think, especially when gals are going on this journey towards better health, there's so many different inputs like so many different recommendations and so just trying to give it that you're like I don't know which way is the direction for me, and so just trying to give it that you're like I don't know which way is the direction for me. But then you also mentioned that need to sit in the discomfort. So you really know which way to go, which again, like when we're looking at how we can make changes to our health, or like if the listener is ready to make changes to their health, you have to really sit in. Where am I right now? What are my habits? How am I feeling? What's going on? What do I know? What do I know? That I don't know kind of thing.
Speaker 1:And from that discomfort maybe that larger event that you mentioned is born, or if not, it's still a good starting point to make changes from there, absolutely. Another thing you mentioned just about prioritizing yourself and or this perspective of ourselves that maybe we're not worthy friends, that I have who kind of or you know, this could apply to anybody too who takes care of somebody else, right Saying, wow, I really have to focus on taking care of my kiddo or whoever it is, and I I can't spend the time or money or energy on myself. I would love to talk more about that. And just when somebody does finally realize, like okay, I can prioritize myself and this is essential, this will help me in all these other areas of life, how magical that shift can be in getting making progress and making change.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. I think that's a really good point and topic. So I like to start by kind of addressing like, from our societal norms, I guess that have been kind of injected or put out there. You know to be a good person and again I'm air quoting you know you sacrifice yourself, you're selfless, you give yourself. You make it about other people and all this stuff and, to be clear, like it's amazing to have a beautiful heart and to want to give.
Speaker 2:But my question would be is where's your come from? Where are you giving from? Are you giving from a place of heart and to want to give? But my question would be is where's your come from? Where are you giving from? Are you giving from a place of like I need to give. I need to give because, A I'm distracting myself from feeling something uncomfortable and, B I need that validation from this other person. That's not even fully genuine giving right. Or are you giving because you are in your power and your heart, which means you did take care of yourself first, and now what you're giving is truly pure, without any expectation.
Speaker 2:So it starts with, I think, recognizing that there is a lot of beliefs out there that it's not okay to make yourself a priority, and I am on a mission to help you know, shift that mindset of like, what if it's actually the opposite? What if actually learning how to take care of yourself first helps you to be the best version of you for everybody else in your life? So it's like the simplest is the airplane analogy. I mean, it's so simple and so clear. If you literally do not put on your mask first, you can't breathe to then help others around you. And this is hard for moms because there's a lot of stories and things around that too. My kid was like I get it, I hear you, I have a lot of clients who have young children and we work through a lot of mom guilt and a lot of things like that. But it's like, literally, if you're not breathing, you won't be able to help your child. So what if this was about learning how to slow this down Again, getting off of the hamster wheel, because a lot of what we don't have time is because you're on the hamster wheel.
Speaker 2:Of course you don't have time when you're on the hamster wheel. There's too much going on. You've got 100 things on your list. You've got a hundred things on your list. You've got a hundred things you said yes to. That's not like a human, realistic expectation, but that's part of the setup.
Speaker 2:From the ego, that's where the sabotage comes in. I hear this all the time. I don't have time for this, and this is one of the foundations of what I teach. I have a membership called the Heart Centered Collective and everything we talk about is learning how to make yourself a priority, learning how to love yourself, learning how to practice self-care so you can get more into your body, process your emotions, get into your power, get into your guidance. Right, All the answers you're looking for already exist inside and connect more to your heart so you can create from that place. Because when I show up for me first and I'm getting into my heart A, I'm creating more heart-based results versus more ego-based results if I don't do that.
Speaker 2:And now when I show up whether it's this conversation with you or a friend or a client or someone in my relationship with they're getting a real grounded version versus a real stressed version or a late version or a not present version kind of a thing, right, stressed version or a late version or a not present version kind of a thing, right. And so I believe it's the same thing for parents. And there's also this story that I need to be with my kids 24-7 and I need to be available for them 24-7. I was just having a conversation with a client about this and if we were talking about it, she's working on a business and there's some guilt around should she even be taking this time from her kids? And so we started massaging this story that what if it's actually better for your kids?
Speaker 2:A couple of reasons. One you've now taken care of yourself. You're stronger and can show up as a better mother. You are now tapping into some purpose. You're more inspired, You're more grounded, you can show up as a better mother. And, lastly, giving them an opportunity to have other experiences where they're not fully reliant on you. They're going to have to go into the real world at some point. Of course we're not throwing them out to the wolves at three years old here. Right, Like learning self-regulating tools, learning how to rely on other resources, other people in your tribe, in your community, is actually very supportive.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Because one person is everything, and if they're not around, you have a meltdown.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know what this makes me think of too is you know somebody's baby who is actually their job or their company or or their team, which, just like you mentioned, at the top rate, that's great to pour your energy into, like a career that you love or whatever your relationship to your career is. But same thing I know that can be really hard for some gals to pull away from that but same benefits of saying, okay, well, we got to like put this, put this organism, this business, maybe on autopilot to some degree and with all of these things, I'll take like changes a little bit at a time, making changes being uncomfortable so you can become more comfortable. But I just wanted to call that out too for any of those gals out there, like you know, like you and I, who, who, our babies aren't human babies. We have, um, businesses or other things that take up our time. Yeah, or in the world too. Exactly On the note of time, though I wanted to come back to what you said about this idea or when we tell ourselves that we don't have enough time, like, oh, I don't have time to take care of myself or I don't have time to time to move my body for 30 minutes a day or whatever it is that we don't have time for.
Speaker 1:But that is such a mindset thing too right. Is there anything in particular that you use, like any kind of tool that you recommend that your clients use, when they're trying to reframe that idea of I don't have time for this and really quick. Just one last thing I'm thinking again when it comes to health. You know the thought of I don't have time to get an exercise, I don't have time to make meals that are kind of more nutritious for me. Those sorts of things hopefully can be salient for the listener as well.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely. So I'm going to go back to the ego and the heart. So you're creating in every single moment and you're either creating from your ego fear, lack, chaos, victim, which means you don't have choice, you don't have free will, you're locked into a corner, you have no power over your schedule. Your schedule runs you, your life runs you or you're creating from your heart, your truth, your intuition, your power, which means you're a victor, which means you have access to infinite possibilities, which means if you don't like something in your life, you can change it.
Speaker 2:Like that, it means you do have the control to decide what you say yes to, what you say no to what's on your calendar, what's not on your calendar, what you do and don't do. So that's the foundation here For anyone who tells me they don't have time. Now, in all fairness, there are definitely people moms, working moms, all of it. The time is more limited. Yes, absolutely. However, you have to go to the bathroom. You can sit in there and breathe and journal if you want while you're peeing. You can sit in your car.
Speaker 2:I tell people all the time and they're like I don't have any space. I'm like go sit in your car. What else is possible, right? So it all comes back to what I said at the beginning Where's your discernment? What matters to you? What do you really want in your life? Sometimes I find with people, they're more committed to the hamster world, they're more committed to the victim mentality and they're more committed to the victim mentality. And that's fine. This is your life. You have free will to do whatever you want. My encouragement at that point is if this is what you're choosing, just own what you're choosing.
Speaker 1:Don't complain about it Now that's up to them whether or not they're going to do that or not.
Speaker 2:I might potentially remove myself if they're deciding that that's the path they're going to be on. However, what's cool is that, when you recognize how powerful you are and that you have access to change anything and everything whenever you want and even I was on another interview yesterday we were talking about even if you're in a situation where you can't change the exact thing you want to change today, you can change your perspective, and this is where your power lies. So what I usually do when I first start working with people because this is mostly what happens they come in, they're chaotic, they're like I don't know what to do. There's too much. So we simply look at every single thing that's on their list and we take most of it off. Most on your to-do list is chaotic. Love that.
Speaker 2:And here's the deal. When you take the time for self-care, when you take the time to journal, breathe, meditate, move your body, you know, set an intention for your day, what happens is you get into your body, you get into your power, which means you are beyond more productive than if you do not do this, because you're again. You're either in your head, which is very limited. You're like literally living from your head up, so you're very limited on what you can access, what you can do, how you can move, how you can flow, what you can accomplish. When you get into your body and you're in your power and you've taken care of yourself, you're now like, oh yeah, I have access to infinite possibilities. I'm so powerful. Okay, cool. What matters to me? This and this and this matters to me.
Speaker 2:A lot of the work we do, too is we talk about current focus. What is your current focus? Three to five things, that is all. Anything more is overwhelming, right. So health is a priority. Let's look at health and let's just make some small differences and choices there. Don't take on the whole enchilada, because that's going to, you know, overwhelm your system. Same thing with self-care. Let's do journaling and meditating for five minutes a day. I have a three minute meditation. There's no way we don't have three minutes. You can journal for five minutes. It's eight minutes a day, right? I do a lot of the same.
Speaker 1:Sorry to cut you off, I do a lot of the same things too. Or when it comes to recommending, like, just cancel some of your plans Of course that's easier said than done, but you don't actually have to go to this girl's night or or like literally whatever, it is Okay, asterisks, maybe something you do have to go to but for the most part you say, hey, I'm a little stressed, I'm a little overwhelmed. Right now I'm going to just take a step back, remove this stuff from my calendar and I can focus on myself and go from there.
Speaker 2:It's a constant what I call negotiation with self. But first it starts with do you want to be a victim or a victor, one or the other? And you kind of have to ask yourself that literally all day long, because we all have egos, we get sucked into it and that's part of it. Right, but I want to be a victim or a victor? Okay, I want to be a victor. Okay. So from that place, what do I want? I want better health. I want better relationship with myself. I want to work on this area and this area.
Speaker 2:Well, look at your to-do list. Take things off that don't need to be there right now. Put them on a different list that you'll come back to in a month from now, two months from now, six months from now. Start to be aware of what you say yes and what you say no to. If you're just yes, yes, and then in six months from now, you're like oh, I didn't grow. A year from now, oh, I'm in the same spot.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, because there wasn't any changes made. It all makes sense if you really just look at it from a simplicity standpoint, right. But the thing is is if you started making a new choice today, slow it down. Like you said, take things off, like, look at your calendar, your list, and like, if it's not really really important right now or you're not, your soul is not like fired up for it. Unless it's a real commitment that you, you know, whatever, and you need to follow through, let it be. Ask what else is possible. Can I reschedule? Can we come back to this, whatever it is, and then start to add in things that actually add value? Do that over time. See where you're at in three months from now. See where you're at in six months from now. That's where the big transformation and changes happen.
Speaker 1:Yeah, One thing that comes to mind too, just from what you just said, is really being solution-oriented instead of problem-oriented. So same thing, right, Victor victim, right, Maybe it's just more like corporate or Marine Corps speak, I don't know. But but yeah, just looking at a problem and saying, okay, well, what is the actual problem? What can I do about it? If I can't do anything about it, then well, rewind, what can I do about it? Let's focus on that. If I can't do anything about it, then is this something I need to be stressed about again. Way easier said than done, but solution oriented.
Speaker 2:It's always easier said than done, but it starts with making the choice and then, typically, if this is something you really want, I recommend getting in a container, a group I have a mentor, a coach, someone. Accountability, because, again, you have an ego. You have these old patterns we all do, myself included, and it's really just about learning how to navigate them and catch them. Oh, I went into that pattern again where I was like more victim and making it more chaotic and seeing everything as a problem. Let's pull out, let's get my power Like what's really. Sometimes. There's not really even a problem, it's just changing your perspective or letting go of the meaning.
Speaker 2:If you cancel letting go of the meaning if you didn't say yes to everyone, letting go of the meaning of, you know, taking something off your plate or whatever that is, and once you do that, then you're back in your power and I'm telling you, life is just more fun in your power. There's more magic, there's more abundance, there's more miracles, there's more joy, there's more inner peace and freedom. See, the mind is looking outwardly to get all of those things. If I could just get, if I could just show for everybody, if I could be the best mom, the best wife or the best business owner, the best, the best, the best, the best at this, this, this, and everybody loved me and thought I was perfect. Then I'll finally feel safe, loved, worthy enough, et cetera.
Speaker 2:I think most of us have been around the sun enough to know that that's just not how this works. It's the opposite. You show up for you first, you fulfill you first, you remember that you're already whole, you are the priority. And then now you go out in the world and you just have completely different experiences and completely different results. Everything that comes in is extra versus the end. All be all.
Speaker 1:This is truly the life-changing piece. I've known you plenty long enough now to understand what you mean when you say that you want to be in your power. But for somebody who maybe hasn't heard that before or isn't super familiar with what that means, can you talk about that a little bit more Like what does that mean? Why is that important?
Speaker 2:Absolutely so. Again, we're creating in every moment. It's from, you know, either ego, fear, lack, giving power away. This is where you're the victim. You don't have choice. No, you don't understand. I'm going to keep this chaotic. I'm going to keep this chaotic. I'm going to keep this dramatic. I'm going to keep this all outward validation. I've given my power away.
Speaker 2:Okay, the cool thing is is that it's your power and you can take it back whenever you want. When you're in your power, you are now more connected to who you truly are, knowing again that you're already safe, loved, worthy, right now within yourself. Whether that person calls you back, they don't call you back. They want to marry you. They don't want to marry you. They want to work with you. They don't want to work with you. They like you. They don't like you, it doesn't matter.
Speaker 2:Yes, you can have an emotion about it, of course, because you're human, but it does not take you down, because you know who you are. This is that part of you that's the victor, that knows you have access to infinite possibilities. If there's a problem in front of you, you zoom out and you find another option. That's where you find the solution. Now, that's being in your power, right. So not being in your power is like imagine like a tunnel vision, like I'm kind of putting my hands up here in my eyes. I'm like that's, all you can see is these options.
Speaker 2:When you're in your power, it's like you're looking around. You're like, oh my gosh, there's literally infinite possibilities. That's where magic happens and that's just where, like I said, we're happier because we're more connected to our true self, which means we're calmer, typically when we're giving our power away. This is where a lot of your anxiety comes from, a lot of overwhelm, a lot of your stress. When we come back into this place that I'm speaking about, into your power, it's you're going to feel it because it's more connected to heart, love, truth, intuition, divine source. If that's something that you feel connected to and it's just calmer in your system, that's when you're like, oh yeah, I can do anything I want, let's do it. Yeah, navigate as inevitable things come up, because there are inevitable things that are going to come up. This is planet earth. We're going to have challenge, right. It's not about that going away. It's about learning how to navigate it, which is also you being in your power.
Speaker 1:What I kind of pictured as you talked through. That is like me. I don't know what random park I'm picturing in my mind, but me standing in the middle of this park with my arms out to the sides and just like feeling so grounded and like connected to everybody and everything around me and, I guess, just understanding of like yeah, what are the options and where am I going? So, for whatever that's worth, that's just what kind of like popped up in my brain as you talked. I love that One thought that I have, or one question, rather. You mentioned a couple of things earlier, a couple of tools, but tell us about what do you do to like stay in your power? What do you do, maybe daily or weekly or monthly or however often Like what are those things that you use?
Speaker 2:Like what are those things that you use? Absolutely. So journaling is a non-negotiable for me every day. Again, this is like something that I teach in my membership. We send out an email every single morning with a journal prompt and affirmation, mantras, things like that. What journaling does is it gets you more in your body, gets you more present, gets you more in your power and your heart connected, connected to, again, divine source, your guidance. All the answers you're looking for exist within. So it slows you down. You start to ask yourself how am I feeling? What's going on? What are my thoughts here? Right? So everything's already inside of you, whether you like it or not. Feelings, emotions, thoughts. They're coming up, whether you like it or not. We either push them down and go on the back to the hamster wheel suppress, which just causes more chaos in our life. We let it up and out, and that's what journaling does. Um, so I journal every single morning and meditate every single morning, breathing, uh, connecting me to my body, visualizing things that I'm calling in, just connecting silence, asking for guidance. Uh, I set an intention for my day every single day. Um, so those are three non-negotiables. Um, I'm kind of for me, I set an intention for my day, every single day. So those are three non-negotiables. I'm kind of for me.
Speaker 2:I'm very sensitive, very empathic, I'm very intuitive. I'm working with a lot of people, so I'm always kind of aware of where's my energy. Did it take something on? Did it take something personal? So I'm having that conversation with myself constantly as well.
Speaker 2:I created a process where I actually help people pull out of those limiting beliefs, pull out of that trauma, get to the emotion, actually feel it and get into your power. So when you catch yourself giving your power away, when you catch yourself taking something personally, when you catch yourself triggered or there's a challenge and you start to kind of spiral I think a lot of people like to call it it helps you pull back to that. So I'm constantly having that conversation with myself. Like I said, this has become a lifestyle for me, is a big part of what I. What I do for myself daily is absolutely transformed. My life and it's what I teach all of my clients and those are really good starts to start to, to get more intentional, because now you're more present. So what self-care as I always call it, like my self-care is like this morning ritual I'm speaking about is it gets me in my body and it sets me up for success throughout my day. To even be able to like catch it Wait am I in my ego right now.
Speaker 1:Am I on the hamster wheel or?
Speaker 2:am I my power? The more you can ask that question, the more you're going to be in your power, not asking the question all day. This is when, a lot of times, what happens I call it an ego blackout where, like, you get home from work and you're like how did I even get here? What have I been doing for the last two days? Right Cause you're just not. You're not in your body and you're not present. Now, this is a natural thing. That happens until this becomes a practice.
Speaker 2:But think about when you're not in your body and you're not present, you're making decisions all day long from an unconscious place. So if you're looking at your life right now and you're wondering, why is it like this? I don't like it, I'm frustrated. This is what you want to look at, because it's all reflection, wherever you're creating, from whatever's going on inside is going to determine your outer results. The good news is is that there is a path forward here. There is support, there are ways in which that you can start to work through this, come back to yourself and connect more to who you really are and start to create a life that adds more value and joy and love into your day-to-day.
Speaker 1:I love that you said it's really a lifestyle thing for you, because I think that's so important with hormone health, right, there are some you know tips and tricks that you can do to help your body, but it really is also a lifestyle of how am I going to live in a way that supports my health, that supports my happiness, that supports me accomplishing all the things that I want to accomplish.
Speaker 1:So it's really again coming back to mindset of where are we going, where am I now, and making it a larger shift than just changing this thing about my morning or this thing about my dinner. The other thing that you mentioned I want to come back to. I'm curious if you'll tell us more about the process you mentioned when it comes to untying those limiting beliefs. Right, that's something that I see from time to time with clients right, of just coming back to this example of getting back into a routine, of moving their body every day or trying new foods or different foods that they don't normally try. So could you tell us a little bit about that process to undo those limiting beliefs of like, okay, I can't make this change, or whatever it might be.
Speaker 2:So this is something I go a lot deeper in with my one-on-one work, and it's a process. It takes time to learn this because, again, what we're doing is we're reprogramming the subconscious mind here. And so, to start off what I like to do again, just if this is something that you want to do, just start to observe. When a story comes up, a limiting belief, when a trauma response comes up, when a challenge comes up, how does it make you feel? What is your mind telling you? Well, I'm not good enough, I'm going to fail, like whatever those are, write those down, journal that and then, if you want to go a step deeper and then, in the next question, be like what am I feeling? I'm feeling sad, I'm feeling alone. I'm feeling sad, I'm feeling alone, I'm feeling rejected, I'm feeling abandoned, I'm feeling shame, I'm feeling guilt. We all have these feelings. You know I allow myself to sit with this feeling without any meaning. Now, again, this is deeper work, so this takes time. The next question would be what is true, what is really true about this limiting belief? Right, and that will help to flip it around, to reset it. And that will help to flip it around, to reset it. But again, there's a lot more to this. I believe it does require support if you wanna go deeper here, because there's a lot that can come up and what you don't wanna be doing is like buying into these stories, and that's where we get really snagged. If you wanna know what's blocking you right now from everything that you want in your life, it's simply just your mind and the stories that it tells you, the stories that tell you about who you are, what you can and cannot do, and the stories it tells you and the meanings about your feelings, because the only reason why you're not doing the thing, whatever the thing is, is because of fear, and the only reason my fear is present is because it's like well, I don't want to feel failure. I don't want to feel abandoned. I don't want to feel rejected, because if I do, that means that's who I am. If I feel failure, I'm a failure. If I feel rejected, that means I'm rejected. If I feel alone, that means I'm alone. And here's the deal. Nothing can be further from the truth. These feelings have no meaning. They're not trying to hurt you. They're not who you felt by you. They don't really care about your hour results. So this is where the deeper work comes in. But if you're just getting started, I would recommend again getting a container, a group, a mentor, coach, something like that.
Speaker 2:Start to practice, let it be simple. Simplify what's on your list. Start to journal, start to meditate, start to make an intention for your day, start to just catch your thoughts. Okay, well, this is the thought. What's true about it? Well, this is the thought. What's true about it? Well, this is the thought. What's true about it? This is the thought. What's true about it. Practice that again. This is, this is this isn't going anywhere. This is a lifestyle, takes time to master and there's a lot of different things that can come up with it, but in my opinion, this is the most worthy work that any human can do. This is the most important work because everything that's going on in your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. So, if you want the hack to creating the life of your dreams, clean up your inner world and watch it transform your outer world.
Speaker 1:Beautifully said. I know that manifestation is a part of well, part of your practice, I think, what you work on with clients. Maybe that would be something we could jump to next for a listener who isn't super familiar with manifestation or maybe thinks it's just super woo, woo, weirdo stuff like help make this a little bit more salient, and how that can also be a tool to help you get closer to your goals.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. So I'll just go back to my original point is that you're really powerful. You're powerful beyond measure, whether you realize it or not, and you're creating in every single moment. Whatever you choose to focus on is what's going to expand. So whether you believe in manifestation, whether you don't believe in manifestation, it doesn't really matter. This is a universal law. What we focus on expands. So you can look up the law of attraction if you want to learn more about it. But there is a law of attraction that basically states like equals like.
Speaker 2:So the more I focus on negative, the more I get negative back. The more I focus on positive, the more I get positive back. The more I focus on what I don't have in my life, the more of what I don't have, you know, feels intense. The more I focus on what I do want in my life, the more of that starts to show up. So it's actually very simple. It's happening, whether you like it or not anyway, right now.
Speaker 2:I mean, if you want to do a little test, just look at your life, look at your results and then be honest. If you're willing to be honest with yourself, write down what do you normally think about and see how they match because your thoughts are really powerful. So the idea here is that your thoughts are really powerful. You're really powerful. You're creating in every moment. Well, you focus on expanse. So if that's really true, what would it be like if you started to be intentional about what you focused on? How could that change your life? How could that transform your life? And so that's the beauty of manifestation.
Speaker 2:And again going back to our all of our original things that we've covered, it kind of takes slowing down, simplifying your life, simplifying your list, simplifying your yeses, making yourself a priority, practicing this in order to kind of even unlock inside. I ask people all the time anything was possible, which it is. What do you want to create in your life? Anything is possible.
Speaker 2:Most people can't answer the question. Fair and the reason why and there's nothing wrong with this, to be clear. But the reason why, if you're feeling like you can't answer the question, is it's not because you don't know the answer, it's just because you haven't connected inside yet you haven't connected to your heart. So all of the work that I do, all the things that I teach, are really just designed to help you remember who you truly are and remove the armor around your heart, your truth, your power, your intuition, so you can just remember what you're safe, you're loved, and you get to choose. You are the creator of your own destiny and again I'm going to reiterate that when you're coming from the place of like I'm the you know okay. So you can either be like oh no, I'm a victim, I'm not the creator of my own destiny. That's just causing pain, what I call unnecessary pain, or you step into your power and it's like wait, I am the creator of my own destiny.
Speaker 1:I get to choose. It's just more fun. It's just more fun. Yeah, I think that's a really great note, as we like kind of prepare to wrap up here, to leave people with or, you know, have listeners feeling inspired by to say, yeah, whether it is something health related or anything else that's going on in your life, you have the power to set that direction. You have the power to do whatever it is that you want to do. And just to reiterate what you said about what you focus on is the thing that will grow and where your attention lies is super important. And so, if nothing else, right, focusing on those things that are the most important to you and knowing what is the most important to you, taking a moment to reflect and decide that hopefully it will be really impactful for the listeners' lives.
Speaker 2:You have nothing to lose. Give this a try for two weeks to a month, consistently.
Speaker 1:See what happens next, see what happens next See what happens. Okay, how can listeners after the show connect with you Like, what have you got coming up in the in the next couple months here?
Speaker 2:Yeah, so anyone who wants to connect, it's just Randy Halloway across the board. My website is randyhallowaycom, my Instagram is randyhalloway, my Facebook my TikTok. I know you'll add that into the show notes as well. I have a really beautiful event coming up. It's called Expanded. It is on October 26 in San Diego. It's actually in person from 10 to 3. It's a women's wellness day and we also have a virtual live stream. So if you're in San Diego, we would love for you to come so we can give you a hug in person. But if you're not able to make it, we have a live stream ticket option so you can kind of connect to the magic as well.
Speaker 2:Basically, I'm going to be leading my self-love and empowerment workshop. I have a wish. I'm going to go deeper into kind of what we spoke about today. I have a guest speaker who's going to be speaking about human design. I don't know if you're familiar about human design, but it's so fascinating to understand what your archetype is and how that can help you navigate in your life. We're going to be doing a really beautiful sound bath and we're going to have a ton of vendors to shop. I know you're going to be there as a vendor as well. Just sharing, learning, growing, fun things to shop. We're going to have a selfie station and DJ snacks and there's going to be a lot of connection. My intention for this event is bringing people together to connect, so my promise is that you're going to leave with a new friend Um and just really excited it's. It's going to be just a really beautiful self-care um day for everybody.
Speaker 1:If you, my dear listener friend, are interested in the event, I would love to see you there in person or virtually. So you pop it up on the screen, you can check out the link in the show notes so you can register. And Randy was really generous in extending a coupon code for a discount. So check out the show notes registration link. Discount code will be there for you. I'm really excited to be at this event with her. Randy always puts on a great event, so I hope that I will see you there. Otherwise, thank you so much for listening today.
Speaker 1:I hope that you like this kind of episode. If you have a request for any type of episode in the future, if there's anything you want me to talk about, then send that my way. I love to hear your requests. And, last but not least, if you want to connect with me on Instagram, you can find me at Bridget Walton and I'll be sharing more about Randy's event there. And, of course, as it's going on, you will see the updates. So can't wait to see you here next time for the next episode. Thanks again for listening.